Thursday, February 27, 2014
And now what?
Is it a sign of our times; a time of moral decay, everyone for themselves? Or is it simply something that has been going on since just after time began, in different forms, different places, but all stemming from the same place. . . the human heart. Is there anyone to blame? Are we all to blame?
Does it matter?
The question now: where do we go from here? How do we move forward, and care for the ones who need care, or the ones not involved directly, but still affected?
As parents or guardians, or caregivers we have a responsibility to those in our care. We are the adults that need to confront, comfort, converse. We are the ones who might not know all the answers and need to be honest about that fact. But that doesn't mean we can't learn. It shouldn't mean we can't listen.
My heart aches for those who felt the need to fit in, to be accepted, for whatever reason did what they did. Consequences will play out from here. I hope. Not in a harsh or vindictive way, but if we don't receive and accept discipline we won't learn to change. How many parents who have trudged through the trenches of toddler-hood don't know this? How many times (or time-outs) did we sit, second-guessing our discipline, our temper, our bruised heart for these that wouldn't take "no" for an answer for the 200th time?
Maybe we still need to say "no." Maybe we need to be available more often. Maybe we try to do everything we can, and our best still leads to this place. However we got to this point, we need to move forward. We need to take the next step, we need to love, to be the place for our children to talk, work out stresses, problems, fears.
Parents, guardians, caregivers, love your children, care for them as best you can, talk with them, listen to them. You were given these precious souls to nurture and I pray we all are able to walk through this thorny patch stronger, more humble and with more compassion. . .
1 Cor 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.